Depression / Mental Health / Relationships / Writing

Does The “If Only” Trap Control Your Life?

IF ONLY I were (better looking, thinner, curvier, taller, shorter, married, divorced, richer, smarter, a mom/dad, not a mom/dad, employed, retired, lived in a different state, etc.), THEN I would be happy. Recognize anyone?  Do you spend much time dreaming about greener grasses and complaining about your own pasture? “If only” is one of our favorite defense mechanisms. It’s tricky … Continue reading

Depression / Mental Health / Mood Disorder / Suicide / Treatment / Writing

Suffering Is Optional

REALLY????????? For many years, not only did I not believe that, I even actually became angry when someone suggested it.  If they insisted, I would scream, “But HOW?  I AM IN SUCH PAIN!” (because he/she/it is hurting me, and THEY should not be.) Let me share my morning thoughts with you.  (photo from “999,999,999 people” on … Continue reading

Depression / Mental Health / reblogged / Uncategorized / Writing

REBLOG: hyperboleandahalf: Depression Part 2

This is a REBLOG, although the blog isn’t on WordPress. Quite by accident, the way these things happen, I just came across the most amazing blog post by someone I hadn’t heard of before, hyperboleandahalf.   In doodle-pictures and words hyperbole tells the story of how depression feels in a very vivid way.  I am drawn … Continue reading