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Does The “If Only” Trap Control Your Life?

IF ONLY I were (better looking, thinner, curvier, taller, shorter, married, divorced, richer, smarter, a mom/dad, not a mom/dad, employed, retired, lived in a different state, etc.), THEN I would be happy. Recognize anyone?  Do you spend much time dreaming about greener grasses and complaining about your own pasture? “If only” is one of our favorite defense mechanisms. It’s tricky … Continue reading